The new conclusion is that female arousal is somewhat narcissistic in nature. Women are turned on by being wanted, by being desired. Suddenly, seemingly disconnected events that arouse women -- a romantic marriage proposal in one instance, and a rape fantasy in another -- make sense. Both indicate an extreme display of desire in her by a man. A man who’s willing to sacrifice everything to be with her. When women say that just because they have rape fantasies doesn’t mean they want to be raped, this is what they mean. What they want is to be desired. They want to be desired to the point that a man loses complete self-control. The actual rape part, I’m sure none of them would actually enjoy. My experience, and the experience of many dating coaches, supports this as well. It has slowly been discovered over the past five years or so within the pick up industry, that the more physical assertiveness you pursue a woman with, the more aroused she becomes -- sometimes even if she wasn’t interested in you, to begin with. Your bold and aggressive pursuit of her often turns her on to the point where she comes around and wants to get to know you.

The new conclusion is that female arousal is somewhat narcissistic in nature. Women are turned on by being wanted, by being desired. Suddenly, seemingly disconnected events that arouse women -- a romantic marriage proposal in one instance, and a rape fantasy in another -- make sense. Both indicate an extreme display of desire in her by a man. A man who’s willing to sacrifice ev...