I Am Ace: Advice on Living Your Best Asexual Life

In order to survive this journey of self-discovery, you have to give yourself permission to not know. There's no harm in not knowing.
There's no failure in not knowing. It's perfectly human to live in your body and experience what you're experiencing without fully understanding it.
The curiosity is what counts. What counts is you acknowledging that you feel something different from the people around you. What counts is that you're searching for new words and new ideas to explain what you feel instead of shoving those feelings away and just conforming to the rest of the world.
What counts is your question, even if you don't have an answer.

In order to survive this journey of self-discovery, you have to give yourself permission to not know. There's no harm in not knowing.
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Sexual attraction is like being hungry for pizza. You know you're hungry, and you know exactly what you're hungry for. You don't want hamburgers. You don't want tacos. Yot want pizza. Your hunger has a direction, and that direction is the nearest Domino's.
Libido is like just being generally hungry. You know you want to eat something, but you're not sure what. If you had pizza, that would be fine. But if you just had trail mix, that would be fine, too. You would also be fine if you didn't eat anything. It's junger without a direction, and it would be cooler if you had a snack.

Sexual attraction is like being hungry for pizza. You know you're hungry, and you know exactly what you're hungry for. You don't want hambur...

There are lots of reasons beyond sexual attraction that a person would engage in sexual behavior. People have sex to experience closeness with their partners. They have sex to procreate and raise children. They have sex to express other attractions they may feel for a partner. They have sex simply because it feels good, and they enjoy the psyhical sensations.
You can have sex without experiencing sexual attraction.

There are lots of reasons beyond sexual attraction that a person would engage in sexual behavior. People have sex to experience closeness wi...